Are you happy with yourself and with your life? I bet that there are things that you would want to change about both you and your life – I’ve rarely come across anybody who is unconditionally happy. People sometimes believe that if they improve themselves, get fit, buy a new car, have really cool holidays that, then, they’ll find happiness. But, that ‘happy’, however, is superficial and passing. Real happiness has to be lasting and not based on having this or doing that.

The one place that you will discover happiness is within. Sadly, that is way beyond the range of shielded from them by what psychologists call ‘The Sentry’, a defence mechanism that we’ve all got that prevents anyone else getting into our heads where they could brainwash us. The big problem is that this ‘Sentry’ keeps us out too! For a very good reason – or, at least, it would appear reasonable until you take a closer look at how we operate – our beliefs about how the world works and who we are are stored in our subconscious. You wouldn’t want to go messing with that stuff, would you? Or would you? Because most of us believe ourselves to be inadequate at least in some way, most of us are simply not 100% happy with who we think we are. That’s because our beliefs aren’t based on fact but on a build-up of what we call the conditioning or programming that we were subjected to during what is generally described as our formative years. This programming or conditioning is the source of both your discomfort with yourself and, just as importantly, everything that you believe to be wrong with your life currently.

What passes for reality is created by our beliefs – it is those beliefs that automatically dictate our behaviour, our actions, our reactions and our interactions with everybody else. It is through this process that we, ourselves, create our take on reality. What’s going on in your head, at the deepest subconscious level, literally creates your life. And it ain’t real, it’s based on what others did for us or to us during those formative years. So of course you’d want to go messing with your beliefs, because normal beliefs hold normal people back.

You need to mess with your beliefs. You must get to the real, inner you, to find true happiness – that is where you’ll unearth a you that is unstained by the crap of normal conditioning, unsullied by all the beliefs that mess up our normal lives – crazy beliefs that keep us in our place – like we should know our place, like you have to work hard to succeed, like pain is never far behind pleasure, that pride comes before a fall – prepare your own list.

Forget that crap. Indeed, forget about who you thought you were and discover who you really are – and the wonderful life that you can really have. Your mind’s obsessed with the normal crap – stop it. I offer my clients various forms of ‘mental calming measures’ – meditation if you will – you need to calm down, wake up and see the light. And then you will find complete happiness.